Personally, I think he’s bisexual. I mean, look at his history — there’s no denying that he likes women. The way I think about him, he likes everyone, he’s sort of a contact junkie — just this incredibly physical (and attractive) person who lives wholly in the corporeal plane and responds with — processes things in — his body before his head or heart. I imagine that he can be hypnotized by a touch the way other people can be stopped dead in their tracks by the sight of money or the promise of true love. I think he likes kicking and kissing in almost equal measure — except kissing edges out ahead because you can do it for longer and it leads to nicer things. It’s difficult to communicate in a comic, but he’s the guy who never stops moving, who touches you a lot when he’s trying to get something across to you, who withholds himself — becoming physically very rigid and distant — when he’s unhappy about something.
But I don’t push that on DCU proper, because I know that it’s more than a lot of people can handle and I want these characters to remain accessible to everyone who loves them. And I’m comfortable with sort of having one version of the character I write for the company and one I keep for myself. The gay community has, so far, done a terrific job of reading what they want to into the Bat-relationships regardless of what we publish. I suspect the straight audience would not be so flexible.
There is a married woman and her husband works long nights and doesn’t return until the early morning. When her husband is away, the wife gets dressed up and goes to an island where she has affairs with random men. When these men get too close to her, like if they want to take their affair to the next level, she purposely gets in fights with them. Then she takes the ferry back home before her husband arrives. She’s also really drunk.
So one night she does her usual routine. She goes to the island, has sex with a guy and then acts like a jerk so they can break up. As she is on her way back to the ferry she realizes she doesn’t have enough money to get back home. She needs to get home soon before her husband comes back. She asks the ferry captain to let her go on for free. She promises the next time she comes she’ll pay double the fare. But the ferry captain tells her no.
The wife goes back to the guy she just broke up with. She’s really desperate. But of course they just got in a fight and he refuses to give her any money. She goes to a guy she was with last week, but he is still pretty pissed off and he won’t give her any money either.
She really has no option other than to walk home over the bridge. It’s really dark at night and she doesn’t want to walk home alone. But she takes the chance…and she is raped and killed by a group of thugs.
Who’s to blame for the wife being raped?
-the husband -the wife -the ferry captain -ex number one -ex number two -the thugs
When my psychology teacher told my class this story for the first time, every single hand went up for the wife–including me. And everyone’s reason was the same: if she wasn’t slutting it up in the first place she wouldn’t have been raped.
So then my teacher changed the story a bit. What if she didn’t have a husband? What if she wasn’t having affairs with other men; she has a baby at home and the baby sitter has an emergency and had to leave. Would we still blame her? Most of our answers changed, but there were still a few that blamed the wife.
Basically the just world hypothesis is: The fundamental attributionerror is based on the assumption that bad things happen to bad people and good things happen to good people.
Of course the wife was raped! She was a bad person, a lying slut, and she deserved it! If she were more careful, if she were sober, this wouldn’t have happened.
This makes no sense because, for a lack of a better description, a variety of people are raped. Rape victims range in age, sex/gender, race and class. And obviously not everyone who has ever been raped has been drunk or wearing shorts skirts, heels, or anything else that translates into “asking for it.”
What happens if you applied that logic to other crimes?
Your car got stolen? What were you thinking driving in a such a shitty neighborhood? Your house was broken into? Well that’s what you get for not having a burglar alarm. You were robbed? Well you were just asking for it by dressing really flashy.
We blame the victim, so we can distance ourselves from the possibility of bad things ever happening to us. It can never happen to us because we’re smart, we follow the rules, we know better.
Rape myths permeate our society and it spreads more thanks to forces like misogyny, racism, ableism, classism etc etc.
Like I mentioned before, dressing like a “slut” isn’t a social norm, it isn’t socially acceptable. But slut shaming mostly applies to women. It is socially acceptable for a man to have more sexual partners and engage in casual sex. When women break this social scripts, they are called sluts, whores and promiscuous. Furthermore, women are expected to be pristine and virginal.
Next, you have to examine the stereotypes pushed as truth by the dominate culture. Men just can’t control themselves. The stereotype is that men always want sex. So if a man sees a woman dressed like a slut, who shouldn’t be dressed like one any way because it’s a breaking culture mores, of course he is going to sexually assault her.
When women are harassed on the streets, for some fucked up reason, it is supposed to be considered a compliment. Men feel entitled to approach you on the street, a bar, or book store to invade your personal space. He just wants to talk to you.
Rape has nothing to do with sex. It’s about power and it’s about violence.
Common rape myths: Myth: Rape is sex. Fact: Rape is experienced by the victims as an act of violence. It is a life-threatening experience. One out of every eight adult women has been a victim of forcible rape. (National Victim Center and Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center, 1992) While sexual attraction may be influential, power, control and anger are the primary motives. Most rapists have access to a sexual partner. Gratification comes from gaining power and control and discharging anger. This gratification is only temporary, so the rapist seeks another victim.
Myth: Women incite men to rape. Fact: Research has found that the vast majority of rapes are planned. Rape is the responsibility of the rapist alone. Women, children and men of every age, physical type and demeanor are raped. Opportunity is the most important factor determining when a given rapist will rape.
Myth: There is a “right way” to respond to a rape situation. Fact: Since rape is life-threatening and each rapist has his own pattern, the best thing a victim can do is follow her instincts and observe any cues from the rapist. If the victim escapes alive she has done the right thing.
Myth: A victim should be discouraged from dwelling on the rape. She should “forget it”. Fact: This advice generally comes from people who are more concerned with their own feelings than the victim’s. All victims should be offered the opportunity to talk about the assault with those personally close to them and knowledgeable professionals. Victims who are not allowed to talk about the rape have a much more difficult time recovering form it.
Mores facts about rape: Approximately 2/3 of rapes were committed by someone known to the victim. 73% of sexual assaults were perpetrated by a non-stranger. 38% of rapists are a friend or acquaintance. 28% are an intimate. 7% are a relative.
THIS THIS THIS SO FUCKING MUCH. Fuck people who think we live in a post-sexist society, and fuck people who ever think violence against women is acceptable in any way, shape or form because it can be “justified”. We shouldn’t have to live in a world where if a guy touches my ass it’s a “compliment” or I need pepper spray to walk home at night.
If you follow my blog, you may find that I’m not a very serious person. But this, this right here, this is important to know.